Double Take

'When you've seen beyond yourself, then you may find peace of mind is waiting there. And the time will come when you see we're all one, and life flows on within you and without you – George Harrison


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10 reasons to bring your fertility, pregnancy, birth, babies and children to see Holistic Physician Rowena J Ronson

10 reasons to bring your fertility, pregnancy, birth, babies and children to see Holistic Physician Rowena J Ronson:

The Young Ones

For fertility:

If you are finding that it is taking you longer to conceive than you would like, homeopathy, good nutrition and looking at one’s lifestyle can be useful to help remove the blockages that might be holding you back from falling pregnant. Holistic treatment is also useful for your partner to assist his fertility, and is also beneficial when there is a history of miscarriage.

For pregnancy and childbirth:
If you are looking to be in optimum health while pregnant; or are suffering from symptoms of pregnancy – nausea, vomiting, mood swings; or you are not wanting to take conventional medication if you are unwell, then having holistic treatment will benefit you (and your baby) and it is safe, natural and effective. Homeopathic remedies are also known to help babies move from breach, and assist with bringing on labour when your progress might be affected by anxiety or other emotions you are experiencing pre-birth. Some women also use homeopathy throughout their birthing process and others even have their homeopath present at the birth 🙂

For mother and baby in those very important first years post birth:
Homeopathic treatment is nourishing in all ways for a mother post-birth. Homeopathy is also a safe system of medicine to help with any health issues that might arise for your baby, straight after birth and the first few weeks and months. Rashes, colic, fevers – babies respond well to homeopathic remedies. I work with mothers closely in those first few years, to support them with their own health and their new addition to their family.

For a safe and natural way to build your child’s immunity:
Homeopathy is a very effective system of medicine to build your child’s immunity and treat acute infections. Each member of your family has their own unique picture of who they are in this world, how they feel, what they think, and how they express themselves when they are unwell. When we have homeopathic constitutional treatment, our immunity grows and is supported and we are prone to less infections. And acute infections can also be treated with acute homeopathic prescribing.

For a holistic way of treating molluscum and other viruses, rather than just waiting them out:
Homeopathy is very affective for treating molluscum and many young children have been recommended to me for treatment as it is effective, natural and there is no alternative given by GPs unfortunately, other than to wait it out.

For behavioural issues and difficult family dynamics:
It is not easy to be a member of a family!! I work with the difficulties that arise from the everyday to the more complex family dynamics with individuals and with the family as a whole.

For when you have exhausted antibiotics and are looking for other options:
Parents and doctors alike are generally not happy in giving children one course after another of antibiotics. Homeopathy offers an alternative to treat both the infections and also build immunity so that infections do not keep occurring.

For ear infections, sore throats, tummy upsets, headaches, eczema:
For all childhood infections, homeopathy offers a safe, natural and holistic alternative.

For Hayfever: With good homeopathic constitutional support over a period of months, ideally begun in the autumn or winter, your children should be less susceptible to hayfever. The allergy can also be treated more acutely during the season.

For hormonal issues for your teenager: periods (pain, frequency, heaviness, PMS), acne, mood swings:
I treat teenagers with all the typical issues that come from being a young person, including their hormones!! Many come for counselling and guidance through these challenging years as well.

For teenagers and young adults with issues with drugs and alcohol: if you suspect or even know your teenager is having issues with drugs and/or alcohol, I provide a confidential, non-judgemental and understanding approach combining counselling, family therapy and natural remedies, including for detox and withdrawal where appropriate.

For more information or to book a first consultation, please contact Rowena direct on 07795 366386 or by email at rowena@evolve2solve.co.uk. She sees patients in St Albans and at Chase Lodge Hospital in Mill Hill.


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Nature vs Nurture

Published in the Society of Homeopaths Journal, Spring 2012
Double Take by Rowena J Ronson and Nigel Summerley

RJR
Was Lionel Shriver’s Kevin born a psychopath or was his parenting a strong contributory factor?

When we reflect on our own lives, how much do we honestly blame our parents for our issues, our stuckness and how we are in the world? Are we parenting our own children in spite and in opposition of how we were parented ourselves or do we consider our parents to be good role models and are consequently continuing in their flow?

How much do we judge the parents who sit before us in clinic when their conditioning differs from ours? Are we able to be the unprejudiced observer when a child is smacked, for example, if we are not raising our own children with that style of discipline? How do we feel if a child is punching or kicking his mother? By just bearing witness are we quietly condoning their behaviour? Do we find ourselves sympathising with the younger of two siblings if they are being bullied by the elder, if it touches a deep unhealed or perhaps even unknown wound in ourselves? We have all been affected by our upbringing and our aim as homeopaths is to be self aware and clear enough about our own individual conditioning to be clear in clinic.

As homeopaths we are in a privileged position to have the opportunity to create change in our patients’ lives. This potential is increased substantially when we are working with young children and their parents. Their journey is just beginning and can be influenced not only by our prescriptions but by what goes on and how we subtly respond to it in the clinic setting.

My experience working with families with children and ‘their’ behavioural issues is that the underlying problem sits within the family and is being projected on to the child. Bringing a child to see us can be a form of scapegoating. After all it is easier for someone else to have a problem than take responsibility for it ourselves. Systemic family therapy encourages us to view the family as a whole even in cases of anorexia, schizophrenia or other personality disorders. It is useful to approach families holding this in mind and to have an eye on the dynamics occurring between parent and child in the room, as this is often where we can find the centre of a child’s case.

But is a remedy capable of being a cure all? Will the family heal its trauma by the child receiving an indicated remedy, even when their dynamics are taken into consideration when prescribing? Is it our place and part of our role to point out any familial obstacles to cure that we observe when our patients are with us?

My belief, having worked with many families, is that there is a diplomatic way to bring parenting issues to the attention of a mother or father without making the parent feel judged as a consequence. It is important to hold an open and trusting space where we are approachable, wise and honest, so that both parent and child feels safe and able to be themselves and bring forth what needs to be treated. But in that space of trust, I often feel there is an underlying unspoken request by the parent to whomever they are consulting, for their lives to be made easier. They do not have the answers they need and they are searching for them.

I feel it is a wasted opportunity if we do not offer some guidance when we see a dynamic that may benefit from a slight shift, as the ‘nurturing’ by some parents can inadvertently create the state that needs treating within a child. How often do we see a Sepia mother forsaking her child creating in them a Pulsatilla state? And how often do we see the reverse too, a needy child bringing out Chocolate tendencies in their parent?

We know that even a foetus can have issues with nurturing. They can feel insecure from their time in the womb or traumatised from their birth process. These experiences are beyond their nature and are in the realm of nurture, so much so that it might shift them out of one remedy state and into another. A babe who might have been destined to be a Calc Carb could adopt a shocked and fearful Stramonium state as a result of an emergency C-section, and who knows what state this might trigger for the parent.

Incidentally, how we nurture our patients is influenced by how we were nurtured when we originally learned to be homeopaths. If we were role modelled supportive, long term holistic treatment to create deep and profound change in our patients, then it is more likely that we will follow that approach with our patients. It is one way of creating a busy, fruitful and fulfilling living as a homeopath, and as a result the benefits work both ways.

NS
The flipside of nurture is supposed to be nature. But what is the true nature of ourselves and our patients? Perhaps we have all had so much nurture that we can’t actually answer that question any more. It’s all very well to talk about the effect of the nurturing/conditioning perpetrated on us by our parents (variations of which we perpetrate on our children), but all human beings are the results of thousands upon thousands of years of nurturing/conditioning — by culture, creed, religion, family, philosophy… And that’s before we add on for good measure what the media, the politicians, the advertisers and the multinationals have done to us. How does the practitioner find the true nature of themselves and their patients in the midst of all this?

The therapist — even one enlightened enough to be able to operate as an unprejudiced observer – can only scratch the surface, and any real change in the patient will be superficial. Perhaps deep change can only come about when the nurturing of millennia is cut through. But how can that be done, and does homeopathy have a role to play?

Homeopaths are well used to dealing with “delusions”. The ultimate delusions of humans are those of “self”, “selfishness” and “self-preservation”. The human brain did long ago what the computer HAL appeared to do in 2001; A Space Odyssey: the ability to think created the delusion that “the self” exists, that this “self” is central to existence, and that it must be protected at all costs in the hope of survival.

This “self” delusion is primitive stuff. When people say human nature will never change, they actually mean this delusion won’t ever change. But can we work on the basis that real human nature is still there, even if it is buried deep?

As homeopaths, we know that sometimes near-miraculous changes can come about. Many things that have been done can be undone. But we also know of the power of “maintaining causes” — of which the most powerful must be the world we live in and which flows in and out of us.

Do we need a new kind of “selfishness” — a “true nurturing” of ourselves which destroys the self created by the “false nurturing” of conditioning?  For, in nature, there are no individuals and there is no self.

As patients, homeopaths, humans, we do not know our true nature. But there must always be the chance that it will be revealed. In crude terms, there could be a return to “Eden”; a state in which love overrides thought.

Such a transformation of the human being can only come about from within. But surely homeopathy can play a part — however small — in enabling the patient to come closer to that transformation.

Ultimately, we might equate nature with god/truth, and nurture with the delusions of humanity that go against nature. Homeopathy — using nothing but the energies of nature — could be part of a revelation.

RJR/NS
Our conclusion is . . . difficult . . . but despite the fact it is easy to be pessimistic, maybe there is optimism that homeopathy is one of the best therapies equipped to help the evolution or perhaps more properly devolution of the human being. Just as the remedy stimulates the body in its efforts to heal itself, then perhaps homeopathy stimulates the life force, the opening of heart/mind, the seeing of true nature (as Hahnemann says in the Organon, “the reasoning spirit who inhabits the organism can thus freely use this healthy living instrument to reach the higher purpose of human existence”).