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'When you've seen beyond yourself, then you may find peace of mind is waiting there. And the time will come when you see we're all one, and life flows on within you and without you – George Harrison


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Talking About Our Emotions Guiding Us by Nigel Summerley and Rowena J Ronson

Talking About Our Emotions Guiding Us by Nigel Summerley and Rowena J Ronson
Image: Clarity by Rowena J Ronson

RJR: Have you ever thought why we actually have emotions, and how they actually might serve us? I am interested in exploring our primary emotions in this Double Take with you Nigel, and I also welcome our readers to contribute. What do you think our feelings of anxiety might be trying to tell us?

NS: We have given labels to all sorts of emotions, as if they were colours of the rainbow or different species of birds, but in reality perhaps there is only emotion and emotional responses. Anxiety or neurosis, or whatever we call it, does not come out of nowhere and take control of us. It is actually us. This is what we are. So what that feeling is telling us is this is what you are. But then we are capable of having – and being – what we call ‘mixed emotions’. So what meaning does that have for us?

RJR: I am wondering about the role of anxiety telling us there is something wrong in our lives that we need to put our attention to. What do you think about that?

NS: Yes, that must be right. The anxiety is a sign of our dis-ease and we need to attend to that. Sometimes our anxious state can be triggered by external events, for example, just out of the blue, suppose an idiot or a bigot became the head of state of a major power in the world – it would be quite understandable for us to be in an anxious state. We can attend to our internal imbalances, hopefully, but what do we do about being anxious for an arguably good reason?

RJR: What a great question. Well I think there is much we can do internally to keep our equilibrium when something external creates dis-ease in our emotions. I think the answer lies in how we choose to think about a situation. Do we allow ourselves to be influenced by the media, for example? Do we have the opinions of certain people whom we trust? Do we have our own self-reflection process to rely on to get us back into our own state of balance? Do we know how it feels to be balanced? For me Donald Trump, at this time, represents for people the issue of change. None of us are mind readers, but most of us resist change. And for those that resist, change brings about anxiety….

NS: Obviously, I don’t want to talk too much about Donald Trump, and I think that your answer spells out how to look at our anxious state when it is created by outside factors. But aren’t there times when it is completely the right thing to be in an anxious state? Or a state of fear? Suppose you are being attacked or having to confront a bully?

RJR: Absolutely! The oldest part of our brain – our reptilian brain – will hopefully save us from danger by triggering numerous chemical reactions in our bodies to enable us to either protect ourselves or move us swiftly out of danger, by way of our fight or flight response. But what happens if the danger is more chronic? Suppose we are doing something in our lives that is not sustainable? Perhaps we are in a relationship that we know is not good for us or we are living beyond our means? Perhaps we are not taking care of our health or forever procrastinating on something that we know we need to address? Do you think our system sending out anxiety is a good way to help us to focus in?

NS: Yes. In those ‘acute’ situations, fear or anxiety spur us to action – it’s all instantaneous. The ‘chronic’ situation you mention is different, of course. But I would argue that our system isn’t ‘sending out’ anxiety – we are that anxiety – it’s how we are and how we live – and we do everything in a constant state of anxiety. If that becomes our normal way of being, how can we get out of it?

RJR: Mindfulness teaches us that we are separate from our thoughts and our feelings to a certain extent, and by perceiving ourselves that way, we can calm ourselves out of anxiety. I am not sure that we all do live in a constant state of anxiety. So in answer to your question – mindfulness.

NS; How can the thinker be separate from the thought? Isn’t it only when there is awareness (or mindfulness, if you like) that there is no separation, that there may be clarity? I didn’t intend to suggest that we are all living in a state of constant anxiety – I was just referring to when we are in that state. The question remains: are our emotions useful or do they make life more difficult?

RJR: Mindfulness is a practice. If you see that you have control over your thoughts, then the result is that you have control over your thoughts. Your thoughts define how you feel, so you can influence both. The separation can lead to clarity, especially when we are overwhelmed by circling thoughts, and intense feelings. Our emotions guide us, I believe. They all serve a purpose somehow.

NS: If ‘you’ and ‘your thoughts’ are inseparable, I can’t see how the former can control the latter. We probably have to disagree here. But we may not act on thoughts, for example, we might feel like killing someone, but it’s unlikely that we will actually do it. Emotions are a guide, and maybe we need to embrace them. Maybe they are proof that we are alive. Could we live without emotions?

RJR: In my reflective process today, I have chosen to have different thoughts than I did yesterday, yet I am still me. I am so much more than my thoughts. I agree it is a great idea to embrace our feelings. That is why we experience them. If we are feeling sad, the best way through that sadness, however painful, is to experience it. What is life like for those who suppress anger? A life without feelings is a regular complaint of people on antidepressants. They come to my practice in order to find an alternative, and most say that they cannot feel their emotions, and they are suffering as a result.

NS: Sorry to be argumentative, but isn’t choosing to have different thoughts… a thought? I think we agree about embracing emotions such as sadness – rather than go into denial about them or to spend our time wishing things were different to how they are. Emotions may be the best guide to what is going on with us, yes?

RJR: I would say it is more of a process than a thought. Emotions are our guide to finding out truth in any given situation. What do our readers think?

NS: Emotions are definitely a guide we should pay attention to in this complex area of thought, choice, decision and understanding. And sometimes perhaps doing nothing but paying attention – or even doing nothing – may lead to fresh insight. I think we definitely need some input from our readers on this.


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Healing Profound by Rowena J Ronson

Healing Profound by Rowena J Ronson

Embryo by Rowena J Ronson Embryo by Rowena J Ronson

Yesterday I received a profound healing from a colleague of mine and as a result I am inspired to share the experience with you. Kate Codrington practises an energy therapy from Mexico called Rebozo. I had actually booked a session on impulse, not knowing what it involved but trusting the space Kate holds and knowing I would reap benefits, as I always do, in her multi-talented care. I could sense energetically when we began that it was an intuitive and safe space she was offering, as I lay on her massage couch open to the experience. I had actually prepared myself for the session by limiting my food intake before I went so my system could focus on healing rather than digesting. I had also journaled in the morning to clear my mind so that I was free from incomplete thought processes whirling around in my brain.

Kate encouraged me to enter a deep state of relaxation by rocking different parts of my body. She wrapped up my legs, arms and then my head, individually and consecutively and then either rolled or stretched me, according to where her intuition guided her. She sensed my legs needed grounding, so not unlike someone mastering an alien force, she vigorously took on the task energetically until calm ensued and my legs were at peace and several inches longer!

I have always been a fan of rocking, if the truth be known, and took up its practise as a small child. The rocking process is a way to self pacify, as it encourages the release of our morphine-like endorphins, which bring peace and calm. And of course we experience that gentle rocking sensation in the womb, in our mother’s arms, and if we are present in nature as the trees hold that space for us too, as they rock back and forth in the wind.

During this first part of the Rebozo process some thoughts did bounce around in my head but I practised Mindfulness and saw the thoughts for what they were – separate from me – and this allowed me to let them go on their merry way so that I could be completely present in all ways. I now felt fully stretched and very relaxed, in an unfamiliar yet familiar way and it felt really good.

Kate then wrapped my whole body up in a cocoon of knotted, firm pieces of cloth and I felt deliciously warm and altogether snug. She moved up towards my head and her presence there energetically encouraged me to focus on my third eye. Instantly I felt a shift. Shapes and colours replaced thoughts and stuck energy and I surrendered to an even greater level of relaxation in my secure, simulated womb. I flowed in this meditative state down my left side and then up through my right as if I was spontaneously and unconsciously performing a yoga nidra. Within Kate’s safe container, I was able to travel deeper and deeper inside myself, calming my parasympathetic nervous system. Consequently, my own ‘vital force’ stimulated its inevitable healing response.

When I ‘awoke’ I actually felt completely different from whence I began, as if the train leaving the station was somehow transformed by its journey, and could acknowledge it when it returned an hour later. It was more than a sense of calm. It was as if I had been dynamically realigned but at the same time, reborn. I guess this was as a consequence of my inner self’s recognition of its safe and unconditional holding in my mother’s womb. My energetic body remembered and somehow reset my clock, or so it seemed.

I asked Kate, after she finished working on me, what she picked up from the experience. She said that energetically it took quite a lot for her to ground me and as she neared my head she had considered closing my connection to source a little, as I was so open. But she realised that this was not the session’s intention or what I needed, so she let it be. She felt this at the same time as I experienced the healing channelled through my crown and third eye chakras.

She mentioned that this kind of healing is wonderful at reminding our system about our own physical and emotional boundaries. As I left I thought about this on a cellular level as I am taking Natrum muriaticum homeopathically. Nat Mur types constitutionally have issues with boundaries, which makes sense for a remedy made out of salt. Being held so tightly in those knotted cloths, really firmed up my boundaries and brought a calm I had not experienced in a long while. I also thought about vibrational healing and how Kate’s healing, similar to homeopathy, works on an energetic level and is super powerful.

The fact that Kate is following her purpose in life is supremely evident and extremely potent. I recognise this in Kate as I do in myself and it makes a tremendous difference, in my opinion, to the therapeutic relationship and how patients respond and heal in our care. I do not say this from a place of ego but from a deeper sense of acknowledgement and acceptance, and I am truly grateful to know Kate and to experience her work.

Insights and inspiration continued to flow for several hours after the session, and well into the night. I felt like I had been given a gift – a confirmation of my connection to source and earth and to the never-ending flow of life and time. For me it was a reminder of my energetic body, and ‘her’ ability to be healed with vibration and intent. There was something truly fundamental and archaical about the experience – in the knowing that we embody eternal wisdom and we are healing infinitum.

For more information about Kate’s work and specifically Rebozo, follow this link….

http://www.katecodringtonmassage.co.uk/rebozo-massage-treatment/

And for more information about my work, follow this link….

http://www.evolve2solve.co.uk


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Holistic Health at Chase Lodge Hospital in Mill Hill, London

How going to a holistic physician can benefit you in all ways

A blog about Rowena Ronson, our Holistic Physician and Homeopath

We are not a collection of separate bodily systems, disconnected, isolated and unaffected by our emotions and our thoughts. We know from life experience that when we feel stressed, we might get a headache or an upset tummy. We might feel our heart racing or notice other physiological disturbances when we are feeling anxious or bereft. We might notice that we are more susceptible to viruses when we have been pushing ourselves too much and not had the time or resources to look after ourselves. Or we may observe that after an emotional upset, we manifest a physical response as a consequence of our internal imbalance.

When you visit Chase Lodge Hospital’s Holistic Physician, Rowena Ronson, no stone is left unturned in the process. Working on your health holistically involves sharing your past history and your present state of being, on all levels. Rowena will work with you to gain insight into why you are struggling with your current health issues by seeing your life in terms of a timeline of events and circumstances that have created how you express yourself as an individual – mentally, emotionally and physically, in the present.

The relationship is an empowering one, as Rowena will encourage you, with one hundred percent support, to understand and take responsibility for your health, moving yourself forward from “stuckness” and imbalance to a healthier and wiser place within yourself, that is free from the limitations we create by our conditioning and self limiting beliefs about ourselves.

Rowena uses classical homeopathy – a natural and holistic Western system of medicine – in combination with eclectic counseling and life coaching (incorporating Mindfulness, CBT, NLP and TA) and good healthy diet and nutritional advice, when needed, to take you on a journey to reclaim your health potential and recreate the person you want to be, in all ways.

Rowena’s areas of expertise are fertility, pregnancy and birth, children’s health, hormonal imbalances, women’s health, mental and emotional issues, relationship counselling for families and couples, and pathological disturbances for which patients want to work naturally and holistically in combination, or as an alternative to, conventional treatment.

Often people discover Rowena’s approach to health when they have been struggling with repeated prescriptions of, for example, antibiotics or antidepressants, and with issues that are not resolving. It is usually the case that they are looking for a more holistic approach to understand and resolve their imbalances. Many come with young children, as homeopathy is safe, natural and effective in building immunity and preventing illness. Others come when they have reached a crisis in their health on one level or another, and they are looking desperately for change. Mostly, once a family member discovers this holistic approach to maintaining good health in all ways, it becomes their way of viewing their life and they can’t help but tell the other members of their family and friends, as they notice the changes in their well-being.

Chase Lodge Hospital is now offering a three-month introductory package to come and work with Rowena, intensely and holistically, through a well-being revival process. Please email Rowena direct for more information on rowena@evolve2solve.co.uk.


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It Doesn’t Just Happen To Us

This is an article I posted on my own health blog evolve2solve a few months ago and I wanted to share it on Double Take for your thoughts and reflections…..

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It Doesn’t Just Happen To Us

By Rowena J Ronson, Holistic Physician

When a cancer diagnosis is given to us, it is most likely to be a tremendous shock. Even if we have been having undiagnosed symptoms for a while, and have visited our doctor several times over a period of months and have been told not to worry; even if we have been referred to a few specialists who have come up with nothing – our first reaction is mostly and unequivocally, shock. The fall from denial to awareness is shocking indeed.

Our second reaction is fear. Fear of the unknown, of the loss of the delusion of certainty that we thought we had, the aloneness of it all. And in our blind panic, our independence and choice are taken from us as we are admitted and filtered, as swiftly as possible, through the system. We can lose our…

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